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Marriage Retreats Pastor & Ministry Leader Retreats

The Oaks - Ramona, California

Senior Pastor R&R
at The Oaks

Five-day Marriage Retreat serving senior pastors by providing them a place to unplug, so they can nourish their marriage

R&R Description

If you are a pastor, you understand the colossal challenge of serving in a post-pandemic world and staying healthy – spiritually, emotionally, and relationally. In the hustle of ministry and the ever-present expectations of leadership, moments of true rest and rejuvenation can feel rare.

Our R&Rs are designed to give you margin to nourish your soul and the soul of your marriage. Throughout the week-long experience, you’ll have the opportunity to fully unplug and be served in a safe environment, so that you can truly focus on each other and the Lord. 

At an R&R, You’ll Experience:

  • Plenty of margin in the schedule to explore, rest, and simply be present with your spouse, free of distractions.
  • Space and time to enhance your marriage and hear from the Lord individually and collectively. 
  • The chance to connect and form new friendships with other couples who are on a similar journey in ministry. 
  • A wide variety of optional experiences and activities to tailor the week to your preferences. 

Who Can Attend?

  • A senior or lead pastor of a local church congregation

Due to demand and wanting to give everyone the opportunity to attend, we limit attendance to R&Rs to once every four years.


Please note: the R&R is a marriage experience not a marriage “conference.” If you want marriage content on a specific topic or season, we recommend looking at a Marriage Retreat at WinShape Retreat in Rome, GA.

Before completing the application, please have an appropriate member from your church fill out our Letter of Support. You’ll be asked to upload the signed letter of support at the end of the application.

R&R Date

August 19-23, 2024


R&R Cost

$400 per couple (all applicable taxes included)
Includes lodging for four nights, all meals, and programming
Due upon acceptance of application

Your R&R Registration Includes:

  • Comfortable accommodations featuring a private room and a private bathroom with a shower
  • Fresh meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, coffee, and desserts
  • Access to all 240 acres of The Oaks retreat center, dotted by rolling hills and stunning views
  • Optional Christ-centered experiences designed to grow your spiritual intimacy with your spouse
  • Serene spaces to truly unplug and connect with your spouse—time to relax by the pool, have fun on the waterslide, play pickleball and more

How It Works

After a R&R, You'll Be:

  • Strengthened in your relationship with the Lord 
  • Renewed in your intimacy with your spouse 
  • Inspired to continue prioritizing your marriage 
  • Encouraged by others walking similar paths 
  • Rested and rejuvenated to return home 


Why do we ask for a Letter of Support?

WinShape Marriage believes in the transforming power of community through the work of the Holy Spirit. Senior pastors, ministry leaders, and international missionaries need more than permission to receive care and rest from their church or organization. They need intentional support and the empowerment of their communities to see this as a vital movement in the well-being of their marriage and relationship with God. The Letter of Support acknowledges this participation in blessing and sending you and your spouse into a week of sabbath.

NOTE: The Letter of Support will need to be completed and uploaded with the the R&R Application.

If we sign up and must cancel, will we get a refund?

Can I register for another R&R and be on the waitlist?

Due to the volume of applications we receive, we cannot allow couples to register and take a space on the waitlist. If you do not get off the waitlist, you can reach out immediately to register for another R+R date with availability.

What is our itinerary for the week, and will we have free time?

Monday 5PM– Friday 11AM. You will receive your itinerary for the week upon arrival. There is margin each day to relax at retreat or explore the quaint towns of Julian and Ramona. There will be optional experiences and activities at the retreat center. The programming portion is very light to align with our intended outcome of rest and renewal. 

What is the role of soul care at the R&R?

One of the greatest commandments is to love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind. (Matthew 22:37)

Soul care is intentionally growing our awareness of what’s happening within our soul so we can learn to love God with more of it. One form of soul care that is practiced during the R&R is the opportunity to receive the ministry of spiritual direction.

Where are you located?

The Oaks retreat center is located in Ramona, California approximately an hour northeast of San Diego, California.

What do we need to bring?

For the pool, we ask for modest bathing suits with appropriate coverage. For women, please avoid bikinis or a revealing one piece. For men, please avoid speedos. The dress for our R&Rs is casual. Please bring comfortable clothing. We recommend a light jacket as well as layers in case of colder weather, rain, etc. While food and lodging are included, additional adventures and activities outside of the retreat center are guests’ responsibility. Please budget accordingly. 

Can we bring our kids to an R&R?

While we love kids (and even have summer camps for them!), our R&Rs are a place for parents to get away and focus on their relationship. Therefore, no infants or children are permitted at these events.

Ready to Register?

Once you and your spouse are ready to register for an incredible weekend getaway, you can do so easily online. Of course, if you have any questions along the way about what experience is best suited for you or your registration, we’re happy to help. You can reach us 866-976-2774 Monday through Friday between 9 a.m. and 4 p.m. EST.

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