10 Ways To Add Some Spice Back in Your Marriage
Our guess is the initial excitement of being married to the person you’re madly in love with felt as natural as breathing, but add careers, kids, and a mortgage into the mix, and somewhere along the way you might have started to wonder where the wonder went. Does this sound familiar? This is a completely normal feeling for any marriage, but it doesn’t have to be your storyline. If you’re wondering how to spice up your marriage, we’re here to help. Here are 10 ideas to spark laughter, reignite romance, and create a deeper connection with your spouse.
1. Plan a Sneak Attack
Buy two nerf guns. When you know your spouse is on the way home, leave one nerf gun and a note, “Come find me,” by the door. When they get home, it’s game on!
2. Communicate With Emojis Only
Pick a day where you channel your creative communication—for this day, you can only talk via emojis. For example, “👀 🫵 🌃 🤟”
3. Schedule Sex
Don’t knock it until you try it. Scheduling sex can lead to heightened anticipation. Not only will you be prioritizing intimacy among your busy schedule, but it’ll leave you with extra time to get in the mood!
4. Channel Spontaneity
Some people like schedules, some don’t. If you and your spouse fall on different ends of the spectrum, meet each other’s needs by doing both. Next time one of you wants to go rogue and ditch the calendar, lean into their spontaneous nature.
5. Write a Love Letter
When was the last time you wrote a heartfelt, romantic letter to your better half? Spend time pouring out your love in a special handwritten letter for your spouse to read.
6. Flirt
Don’t wait to turn on the romance until the bedroom. Send a flirty text, wink at your spouse across the room, or cuddle up with one another.
7. Have a Power Outage Date Night
Use your imagination! Pretend the power is out at your home, and enjoy a romantic evening only by candlelight.
8. Get Sweaty
Exercise unlocks powerful feel-good hormones like dopamine in your brain, and it can also increase a desire for intimacy. Release stress, and take advantage of the happy hormones flowing as a result of exercising together.
9. Enhance the Atmosphere
It’s totally normal for the bedroom to become the catchall every once in a while. Dedicate time to not only cleaning your room but upping the ante and making it a relaxing, inviting environment. Light candles, turn on soft music, and pull out the best sheets. And, ditch the oversize T-shirt or gym shorts from high school.
10. Communicate Your Desires
Having vulnerable and honest communication is vital for any healthy marriage, and conversations about intimacy aren’t excluded. A strong emotional connection fosters a more satisfying physical relationship.
Spicing up your marriage is not relegated to only spicing up the bedroom. Intimacy is more than just sex. So, as important as physical intimacy is, don’t neglect the value of emotional, intellectual, creative, experiential, and spiritual intimacy. Sharing your feelings, asking probing questions, cooking a new recipe, trying a new hobby, and praying are all examples of ways you can spice up your marriage by tapping into other forms of intimacy. As you move through your day-to-day routines and rituals, be intentional about prioritizing ways to add some “spice” to your life!
